Solve the problem, rather than attacking the person.
David Powlison in Good and Angry: Redeeming Anger, Irritation, Complaining, and Bitterness, gives the following examples that I found helpful regarding the “good fruit” of wisdom. Keep your mouth shut, when you used to blurt out a reaction. Listen, when you used to be busy crafting a comeback. Speak up courageously, when you used to get intimidated. Embed…