David Powlison in Good and Angry: Redeeming Anger, Irritation, Complaining, and Bitterness, gives the following examples that I found helpful regarding the “good fruit” of wisdom.
- Keep your mouth shut, when you used to blurt out a reaction.
- Listen, when you used to be busy crafting a comeback.
- Speak up courageously, when you used to get intimidated.
- Embed any specific criticism of another in both appropriate commendation and Christ-centered optimism.
- Treat people fairly, representing them accurately and recognizably; no gross caricatures.
- Speak accurately and abandon prejudicial language: “always” and “never” are rarely true and are invariably more destructive than constructive.
- Speak calmly, rather than with gusts of inflammatory emotion.
- Speak frankly, rather than inhibited by timidity.
- Raise an issue you used to swallow.
- Overlook an offense you used to explode over.
- Solve the problem, rather than attacking the person.
- Expect to see Christ work, rather than despairing or panicking when troubles come.
- Replace harsh words that stir up anger with gentle answers.
I think this is a great list to work through as you pray to God and ask Him to work in your life to more faithfully exude His wisdom.
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