Emotional and spiritual abuse from a pastor? Nah, that never happens.

In walks Mr. or Mrs./Ms. Narcissism. I’m wise. You’re not. I’m in charge. You’re not. Shut your mouth while I’m talking. Don’t ever talk to me that way? Do you know who I am? You don’t have the right or freedom to ask me questions or question my authority.  Intimidation. Threats. Long stares. Biting sarcasm.…

Before We Forget: Introducing Our Soon-to-Release Book

Over the course of a few years, Nathan Millican and I worked on a book with several other friends. The book is aimed at pastors and releases in June. Below is an excerpt from the introduction I wrote to the book. Links to pre-order the book, if you’re inclined, are at the end of this…

Mike Schoonover on boxing and 4 truths for your life.

Photo by Attentie Attentie on Unsplash TAKE A 9-COUNT Boxers train. A lot. We’ve all seen the movies. Movies of the underdog boxer incessantly training with motivational 80’s rock music playing in the background. The boxer who runs through the streets of his town in the rain and snow, morning, noon, and night. The sweat covered boxer doing…

Leadership Must Involve Encouragement

One of my favorite leadership expressions says that if you think you’re leading people but no one is following, you’re not leading – you’re just taking a walk. A surefire way to get people to stop following is to be demanding and correct them constantly without offering profuse encouragement. As Mark Chanski says in his…

Theological Triage, Yes. How about Emotional Triage, Too?

There are these moments. These situations where your conversation enters into the realm of debate. The disagreement is clear. Debate ensues. You hold one position, your friend another.  On the inside, you are convinced of your position. You have studied the issue, read your Bible, formulated careful conclusions, and are ready to stand your ground.…

Managing Disagreements: How can we love God and love people even when we disagree?

In this episode, Jonathon and Dustin sit down and chat about how we could manage our disagreements in more God-honoring and people-loving ways. Disagreements are common to human existence. Given the reality of sin, disagreements often lead to relational conflict. In order to thoughtfully head towards heaven in ways that glorify God and love those…