Emotional and spiritual abuse from a pastor? Nah, that never happens.

In walks Mr. or Mrs./Ms. Narcissism. I’m wise. You’re not. I’m in charge. You’re not. Shut your mouth while I’m talking. Don’t ever talk to me that way? Do you know who I am? You don’t have the right or freedom to ask me questions or question my authority.  Intimidation. Threats. Long stares. Biting sarcasm.…

Before We Forget: Introducing Our Soon-to-Release Book

Over the course of a few years, Nathan Millican and I worked on a book with several other friends. The book is aimed at pastors and releases in June. Below is an excerpt from the introduction I wrote to the book. Links to pre-order the book, if you’re inclined, are at the end of this…

Theological Triage, Yes. How about Emotional Triage, Too?

There are these moments. These situations where your conversation enters into the realm of debate. The disagreement is clear. Debate ensues. You hold one position, your friend another.  On the inside, you are convinced of your position. You have studied the issue, read your Bible, formulated careful conclusions, and are ready to stand your ground.…

Not Every Thing is as Important as the Next Thing: John Calvin on Theological Triage

Our generation is bad at disagreeing. It seems, at least from certain perspectives, that if two people or groups disagree on an issue, they must be enemies. At least we too often act as if this is the case. Sadly, disagreement too often leads to open warfare. This is true whether we are talking about…

Husbands, Love Your Wives

By Dave Zuleger The idea of love is talked about often, dreamed about even more, and the subject of all sorts of songs, shows, and movies. But, what does love really mean? What does it really look like on the ground in the hardest, darkest moments of life? It’s easy to picture what love is…

A Tale of Two Responses: Worldy Grief vs. Godly Grief

Not long ago my husband and I had a weekend that would make for great reading in parenting books. Multiple children required discipline for sinning against someone else, but the contrasting responses from two of our children in particular clearly displayed biblical truth. The weekend looked like this: One child faced the consequences of speaking…

Welcoming and Affirming the Same Thing? Confusion in our Culture

Recently, a few guys in my community group had a great discussion about how we can love people who believe differently than us while also upholding the truths of the Bible. That is, we believe that the twin ideas of loving people and standing for truth are not antithetical to one another. Indeed, faithful Christianity…