In his book Practicing Affirmation, Sam Crabtree gives 9 reasons why we should affirm others. His words are also helpful in giving “handles” in how we can love our neighbor.
- Affirming others earns us the right standing from which to make suggestions. It gains us a hearing.
- Affirmation lifts morale. It’s good for the home, the office, the church, the locker room.
- Affirmation energizes people. It not only lifts their spirits but motivates them to action.
- Affirmation of others makes us easier to live with.
- Striving to affirm others puts in the practice of looking at them positively — that is, looking for evidence of God’s work in them.
- Affirmation constructively uses time that could have been wasted complaining.
- By commending Christlike qualities, and celebrating them when we spot them, affirmation showcases the character of God, giving him honor for being the kind of God he is.
- Behaviors that are rewarded and celebrated are more likely to be repeated. So reward what you’d like to see more of.
- When we commend God’s image in people, God is glorified, and that’s why we were made — to glorify God.