How well do you know your wife?

Martin Luther said, “There is no more lovely, friendly or charming relationship, communion or company, than a good marriage.” That being said, how well do you know your wife? Consider the following questions:

  • Do you know what she is worried about today?
  • Do you know her greatest concern for herself? For you? For your children?
  • Do you know what sin she struggles with the most?
  • Do you know what unmet aspirations she harbors?
  • When is the last time you asked, “how are you doing?
  • When is the last time you asked her, “How are we doing?”

How would you assess your “presence” in your marriage?

  • When is the last time you had quality time with your wife?
  • How about quantity time?

No relationship is static; you are either committed to growing closer, or you are drifting apart.  Which is true of your marriage? What are you going to do about it?


[1] Timothy Z. Witmer, The Shepherd Leader At Home: Knowing, Leading, Protecting, and Providing for Your Family. (Wheaton: Crossway, 2012).

One thought on “How well do you know your wife?

  1. Nice list, brother. Here lately I’ve found questions like “What daily concerns are over-burdening you?” and “Where am I not taking leadership that is causing you harm?” have been incredibly important. Incidentally, they are questions I HAVEN’T been asking lately in my selfishness and blindness.

    Also, from the quote–we have this hanging in our bedroom:

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