Walt Mueller shares in his book The Space Between: A Parent’s Guide to Teenage Development a few suggestions on how to offer stability to teenage emotions when they seem to be out of control that I wanted to pass on. He says…
- Treat your teenagers’ emotions as important. Don’t be insensitive.
- Make every effort to ensure that your home is emotionally stable and secure. The world of a teenager is ugly at times and full of rejection…don’t let your home be that.
- Look for and empathize your child’s positive qualities. They hear negativity all the time from peers – work to say things such as I love you and I’m proud of you.
- Don’t take your teenager’s rejection personally. Your role is to consistently love and encourage your child while finding your identity in Christ alone.
- Ask questions if your teenager’s mood are often low – really low. Don’t be afraid to probe if you suspect that something more significant is going on beneath the surface.
- Always, always, always empathize the authority of the Word.
- Teach your children to trust truth over feelings. Teach them how the authoritative Word speaks to every area of life.
- Make sure your children know that following Jesus doesn’t always feel good.