The Do’s

1. DO try to be with the family as soon as you receive word about the family member’s death.
2. DO offer to help the family gather information in preparation for the funeral arrangements.
3. DO mobilize the church family to join you in caring for the needs of the family.
4. DO gently offer suggestions that might make the funeral service more honoring to Christ.
5. DO be personal without forgetting that your primary responsibility is to set forth the gospel of Jesus Christ.
6. DO expound the Scriptures.
7. DO dress appropriately.
8. DO get the details about the graveside service.
9. DO offer your services to the funeral home when they do not have a minister to serve a grieving family.

The Don’ts:

1. DON’T try to do the funeral directors’ job.
2. DON’T squander an opportunity to counsel with the gospel of Christ.
3. DON’T be late for the funeral.
4. DON’T neglect communicating with those involved in the memorial service.
5. DON’T preach too long at the funeral service.
6. DON’T do more than you are asked to do.

Croft, Brian; Newton, Phil A. (2014-06-03). Conduct Gospel-Centered Funerals: Applying the Gospel at the Unique Challenges of Death (Practical Shepherding Series) (Kindle Locations 229-330). Zondervan. Kindle Edition.